What do you do when the only way you can stop someone from getting hurt is to risk hurting them yourself? Do you try and intervene? Do you just let the cookie crumble? Is there even a reasonable option in this situation?
If you're ever faced with this dilemma, I have one piece of advice: throw the fight before the fight throws you. You cannot win.
Nonetheless, if you want to know who your real friends are, fight the battle. Every mediocre friendship you've ever thought more of will reveal its true colors, and you will grow a new love for your four or five friends that stick by your side. These are the only people that will ever really know you. These are the only people who will understand why you do things, and you will never have to doubt that again.
If you want to know what it's like to trust someone, be the contender. Put your trust in people who want you to trust them. When everything goes to hell and everyone speaks out against you in order to cut their losses, you will understand. When they fail you for everything it's worth, you will understand.
If you want to know what it's like to be the victim of assumptions, wage war. If you're not collaborating with those four or five people who know you, you're feeding mouths that will bite. Everyone knows the real story, but the facts are never told under pressure. Things are left out. Details are altered. You are wrong, and there is nothing you can do about it.
You lose, no questions asked.
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